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2006-01-28 
 

resolutions

Being a world class procrastinator, I am only now coming up with some resolutions for the new year.

1. Finish transcribing the adventure.

2. Pay off the credit card.

3. Explore career options.

4. Become less Tivopendent.

5. Take a real vacation with G. (at least a full week, someplace fun, just the two of us)

hmmm...number 2 might be at odds with 3 and 5, but we'll see

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2006-01-24 
 
cell phone fortune

Last week, one of my cell phone fortune cookie messages read:

Significant life changes are coming your way in the next four weeks.

I have to admit, as I sit in a San Diego hotel room dreading another presentation, it sounds like something to look forward to...as long as the changes are good ones. (No need to caution me with tales of overconfident kings at Delphi.)

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2006-01-21 
 
brokeback mourning

Read an entry that Names wrote a few days back that got me thinking about my own reaction to Brokeback Mountain.

Overall, I did like it. Cried buckets back at home about an hour after the movie ended. It was the final scene that did me in, but more because after I internalized it there was a possible correlation to my own future that the dramatist in me wallowed in for a while.

I do have to agree with several of Names' comments about what bothered him about the film. The first sex scene was a big disappointment for me. Especially after the media hype about boundaries being broken in what was being shown. I didn't see that at all. We saw more of Anne Hathaway later on than either Jake or Heath during that scene. Would've been nice for the voyeur in me, but I didn't need to see more flesh to believe it was more than raw sex. My question was where was the kissing? It almost started out with some and sure, we saw that later at other points in the film, but was the idea of putting it all together so frightening? Maybe it's me because my idea of good sex goes beyond the wam/bam variety, but I don't think I'm alone there and that first encounter fell quite flat for me.

I also agree that the relationship between the two men seemed, on the surface, to be missing something. I understand that the world they lived in forced them to hide it all and do feel the actors did a good job at "repressed emotions", but I needed a bit more openness/tenderness between the two of them during those "fishing" trips to believe that there was much more than a fXckbuddy relationship happening.

The final scenes did begin to capture a deeper emotion that Ennis had held inside, but I wanted more up front and I wanted much more from Jack's character than the one outburst by the lake. Maybe I interpreted too much of the angst during the rest of the film as being about the characters accepting their orientation instead of accepting their love, but it seems just a scene or two more would've solved that for me and given me a bit more of the love story the media promised.

Bottom line is that the hype left me feeling cheated. Once again, I understand that the time and place dictated how they both reacted and interacted, and maybe I ought instead to be happy that my own relationship, mere decades later, is leagues ahead of where Jack and Ennis could ever be back then. Still, I wish I'd seen the film earlier in its release or that the marketing had been different.

I do anticipate watching it again in the future and enjoying it more because I'll be expecting another sad tale of doomed gay love made for Heteromerica, but the romantic in me longs for a mainstream film that shows our struggles and the reality of our lives yet ends with two men quietly asleep and happy, in each other's arms.

Or is a happy gay love story still too threatening?

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2006-01-20 
 
slow burn

This blog will be 4 years old soon. I started on 2/2/02. There was something nice and round about that date that I wanted to preserve so I made an extra effort to get it up and running in time. There's something significant about hitting 4 years of blogging too, but I'm not sure what.

Maybe it's just that I actually started a writing project and stuck with it, albeit sporadically, for such a long time.

Pretty good, that.

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2006-01-16 
 
whirled peas

Having a wonderful time out here on the other coast. Getting to spend some quality time with M and enjoying seeing the mind of a child at work.

Not too long ago, E pondered peas. "Peas are like little tennis balls you eat, right?"

M wrote it on the fridge board and I only got to experience it second hand, but it reminded me that looking at things from an unusual angle helps make life more fun. Gotta remember to do that more often.

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2006-01-12 
 
coast to coast

Seem to have kicked the worst of the cold and managed to fly across country without head exploding. Thanks Ricola! (and prescription cough suppressant with codeine)

Had an extra nice visit with B last night. Ate, drank and generally made merry. Many thanks for letting me crash!

Made my way down to M and E today and I'm now sitting at the computer while E goes off to land of Nod. Just finished a game of Tower Blaster with G. Strange to play it out here while he's still back home in the apartment. Normally, we play with only a thin wall separating our computers so that we can talk to each other as we play. Actually used the chat feature for the first time tonight and while it's nice, it just doesn't beat having him in the next room.

Not sure what's on the agenda for tomorrow, but I do foresee a visit to Dunkin Donuts. Yay!

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2006-01-08 
 
hack hack

So, I'm still hacking away. Hoping Mr. Doctorman can see me tomorrow to let me know if this is more than the common cold.

I hope not, I'm supposed to be on vacation soon!

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2006-01-02 
 
like two balloons

Only it's not my hands feeling balloonish, it's my head. And yes, even though my head is singular, it still feels like two balloons, not one. Besides, it's so full of vile fluids and other unpleasantness that it would take a whole two balloons to capture it all...or something like that. I'm sick and I watched a rerun of Pink Floyd in Berlin at some point over this weekend and that particular line got stuck in my head.

Well, I just used most of my med buzz to write an insanely long email to m, so the rest of you lot are out of luck today. Just popping in quickly to say HAPPY NEW YEAR, kvetch about the cold and let you all know that a cup of coffee and three tabs of Walfedmaflu Daytime (or whatever it's called)are speedier than cocaine. And yes, I know you're not supposed to take three tabs, but it did clear my head for a bit so +thpppt* to you. And now I'm sipping tea and ready to go sit on the couch and slolwy drift back down into the stupor from whence I came.

Now kids, don't try this at home. Not ramping up could cause you to crap out, and nobody likes a party pooper.

And that's one to grow on!

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